The pain inflicted by religious communities and institutions is real, just as spiritual abuse and trauma are real. Much of my work is about understanding how those systems scapegoat what they can't acknowledge in themselves, projecting their own unintegrated shadow onto an individual, a family, or a group. That burden—and the wreckage—is significant, and many of my clients have experienced trauma of this nature.

That said, I approach your religious and moral framework with respect and curiosity, not assumption or critique. This work isn't about convincing you to leave a faith, or to stay in one, it's about understanding what happened to you inside a system, so you can find your own honest relationship to what you believe.

Both! I find in-person allows for so many more layers of communication, and meeting virtually provides access and convenience in often already stressed calendars. If you are local to Boulder, and your circumstances allow for in-person, let’s start there.

There's also something simply biological about it. Two bodies in a room regulate each other, nervous system to nervous system, in ways that happen beneath conscious awareness and outside language altogether. For trauma that lives in the body, not just in the story you tell about it, that physical, felt presence isn't a nice extra. It's often part of the work itself.

The first time we meet is called an intake session, and this is a chance for us to get to know each other. For individuals this is 90 minutes, charged at the standard session rate.

After the intake, sessions for individuals are typically 50 to 60 minutes, and sometimes up to 90 minutes, with prior agreement.

Diagnosis can be clarifying, even relieving, for some. What I'm cautious about is a label standing in for someone's whole story, or foreclosing curiosity about what one is actually carrying. Diagnosis and depth work aren't opposites, both can be held.

Most of my clients have been surprised at how little judgment they felt for their complexity. I hope that is your experience too. That said, our relationship will be it’s own, unique thing because YOU are unique, and what you need and how WE respond to one another is it’s own weird and wonderful thing.

I am interested in YOU, in how you see and experience both the outer world and your inner world. Together, we’ll agree on what you’re wanting to accomplish, and then talk about the best ways to do that.

Not at all. Some of the most meaningful work happens without a crisis. If you're curious about your own psyche—your dreams, your patterns, what moves beneath the surface of your life—that curiosity is enough of a reason to begin. Depth work doesn't require a diagnosis or a breaking point to be worthwhile.

Most of what brings people to depth work is relational in origin—wounds formed in relationship, often early, often before there was language for what was happening. Because of that, the repair usually needs to happen in relationship, too. A therapist can be triggered, surprised, or moved by you, and can also disappoint you—and stay in it long enough to repair that rupture together. That relational reality is where change often actually happens, and it’s a reality we feel in our bodies when two nervous systems talk to one another.

In addition, depth-oriented therapy works with more than conscious exchange; it works with what moves beneath it. Your unconscious meets mine—through transference, through what surfaces without either of us intending it—and that numinosity is part of what makes change possible.

The appeal of AI is legitimate: it’s available at 3am, it costs less, and it asks nothing of you in return. For some kinds of support, that is real value. But this work depends on two people, each capable of being changed by the other, and that willingness to make ourselves vulnerable in and to relationship is one glorious aspect of our beautiful humanity.